Whether you’re someone who doesn’t let things get to you or someone who gets anxiety at the smallest thing, planning a wedding can be stressful. While you are probably very excited about spending the rest of your life with the person you love, the planning process can take a lot of time, energy, and money. In addition, those in same sex relationships have to worry about the potential opposition they may receive from family members and friends. This combination can make it difficult for anyone to get through the wedding planning process without having an emotional breakdown. While there may not be anything you can do to relieve all of the stress, there are some things you can do to help make the process a little easier.
You and your partner should make sure things are planned out from the get go. That way, you don’t have to worry as much about last minute decisions and things not going right. Setting a timeline can be very helpful. There are many websites that can give you a good idea of how much time ahead you should book your location, hire your photographer, and choose your DJ. Here are some examples of when you should plan these things:
- It is recommended that you book both your photographer and location about 12 months in advance. However, some venues may require that you book even more in advance if it is a high demand location.
- Find and order/purchase your wedding dress nine months in advance.
- Send out save the dates four months in advance.
Staying on track will help you to be organized and not forget anything.
Stick to a Budget
If you’re lucky, you or your partner’s parents are able to pay for the wedding. Unfortunately, this is not the case for most people. Even if they can contribute a little bit of money or pay for one part of the wedding, you may be responsible for the majority of the expenses. This is where you need to set a budget before you do anything, and stick to it. You don’t want to go thousands of dollars in debt for one day, no matter how important that day is. If you have to add a little to the budget, try to find where you can trim so you aren’t spending more than you planned. For example, if you find a wedding dress you love that’s $500 over your budget, then you should try to find that $500 in the budget somewhere, such as taking some from the decorations and some from the food.
Don’t Be Afraid to Delegate
You aren’t the only person responsible for planning your wedding. Your partner likely wants to have a say as well. Even if you are more of a planner than your future spouse, it’s okay to ask him or her to take on some of the responsibilities. In addition, you may consider hiring a wedding coordinator. This can take an immense amount of stress off of you and your partner.
Remember What It’s All About
In the moment, it can be difficult to remember that your wedding is just one day, while your marriage is for a lifetime. It’s not the end of the world if something goes wrong. Focus on the important thing: You are getting married to the love of your life. With the battle that same-sex couples have had to face achieving this freedom, it’s something you should celebrate. Try not to let the stress of wedding planning ruin that feeling for you.
Getting married is a wonderful thing, so try to remember that in the stressful moments. Plan ahead, stick to your budget, and don’t be afraid to ask for help. Additionally, remember that your marriage is what’s important, and your wedding is just a celebration of that.