You’ve found the love of your life, and you know you want to spend the rest of your life with him or her. While the idea of being married sounds glorious, you may be stuck on how to propose. As a homosexual couple, you might be wondering if you should do it the same way as heterosexual couples do or if there is a whole other set of rules. The good news is, there’s no perfect way to propose, so you can take the pressure off of yourself. Still, here are some answers to some of the main questions you might have.
Should You Be the One to Propose?
One of your first questions may be, which one of you should propose? The answer is whoever wants to. Generally, in a heterosexual couple, the man will propose to the woman, but this is not always the case. Women can propose to men, and it’s up to you whether you ask your partner to marry you or if you wait for him or her to ask you. It can be helpful to have a discussion over how it happens though, because you don’t want to both be waiting on the other one to propose!
Who Gets a Ring?
If you are the one who proposes to your partner, then it can be a nice gesture to get him or her a ring. It’s a great way to show how serious you are about your proposal, and how much thought you put into it. You might wonder whether or not you should have an engagement ring as well. The truth is, it’s not really necessary. There’s nothing wrong with getting a ring if you want one, but a lot of couples prefer to save that money for the wedding or honeymoon.
Should You Have a Wedding?
Should you have a big wedding or opt for a private ceremony with just the two of you and a couple of witnesses? This is completely up to you. Many people like having a wedding so that their family and friends can be a part of their special day. It can be fun to plan a wedding, doing things like:
- Picking out wedding colors
- Choosing a venue
- Booking a photographer, DJ, etc.
However, there are some who want it to be low key and just want to be married without dealing with planning a wedding. You and your partner should decide which option is best for you.
Who Should Pay for the Wedding?
Most people know that it’s typically up to the bride’s parents to foot the bill for the wedding. Is it fair? Not really. Still, it’s the way it has been done for years. But what happens when both of you are brides, or when neither of you are? Once again, it depends on you and your situation. Perhaps one of you has rich parents who would be more than happy to give you the wedding of your dreams. Maybe it’s up to the two of you to pay for your wedding. Honestly, this is how it should be in any wedding, whether it’s for a homosexual couple or a heterosexual couple.
Who Should Be In the Wedding?
If you have decided to have a big wedding, you might be trying to decide who should be in your wedding. Should you have all groomsmen or all bridesmaids? The truth is, pretty much anything goes. Have all bridesmaids, or all groomsmen, or a few of both. If that doesn’t work for you, don’t have any at all. There aren’t too many rules when it comes to gay weddings, which means you can choose what works best for you.
As you can see, all of this is really up to you. Figure out what works best and go with it. Remember the important thing is spending the rest of your life with your loved one, so try not to worry about the small things.