Now that the Supreme Court has deemed same-sex marriage legal in all 50 states, all same-sex couples who live in the United States can get married without worrying about their state not recognizing the marriage. Naturally, many same-sex couples are celebrating by getting saying “I Do.”
When the time has come to tie the knot, there are a lot of things to plan. You have to decide whether you want to get married at the courthouse or if you would like to have a full-blown wedding. Since many have anticipated this day for a long time, they are excited to have the wedding they have always waited for. If you are one of those couples, then you have some planning to do. One of the things you will need to decide is who to invite to your wedding.
Figuring out who should come to your wedding can be more difficult for a same-sex couple than a heterosexual couple. After all, not everyone has warmed up to the idea of the legalization of same-sex marriage, so you may have people in your life who do not support your relationship. This can be hard when these are the people you are closest with. When it comes to your guest list, there are some choices you have when making the tough calls on whom to invite.
Announce Your Engagement
When you announce your engagement, some people may have reactions better than what you expect. If the two of you have been in a relationship for a long time, then this is probably something they saw coming. You might find that they are more open to the idea than you might think. If this is the case, then you won’t have to worry about whether or not you should invite them to the wedding.
Talk It Out
Of course, life isn’t perfect, and there may be people who do not want to see you get married. If this happens to you, then you may be stuck as to what you should do next. Your best bet is to talk it out with them. There are a few things you should make known to them:
- Tell them how important this is to you, and explain to them how much the person you are marrying means to you.
- Share with them how much you want them to be there for you.
- Be patient, but make sure they know that your wedding is happening with or without them.
Give them some time to think about it, and try not to put too much pressure on them. Sometimes, people can put aside their feelings and accept the fact that you are getting married, even if it isn’t a relationship they can agree with.
Unfortunately, there are times when no matter how hard you try, a person cannot come to terms with your relationship. If you are in this situation, then it may be best not to invite this person. You don’t want to stress about him or her causing a problem at your wedding, and you don’t want there to be any awkwardness. Even when this person is someone incredibly close to you, such as a parent, there are times when you need to think about what’s best for you and your partner. However, it’s important to remember the ramifications that can come from not inviting a parent to a wedding. This can put enormous strain on the relationship. This is why not inviting him or her to the wedding should only be a last resort.
While this can be a tricky situation, hopefully you will be able to find a way to get the person to support you despite your differences. If not, then you might have to make the tough decision on whether or not he or she should be invited to your wedding.