Traditional bachelor and bachelorette parties typically include the bride and groom getting together with friends of their gender, having some drinks, taking in a certain type of show and then trying to rehydrate the next day. However, as times have changed, so have bachelor and bachelorette parties. More people are choosing to find unique ways to celebrate their last days of being single, and this is especially the case for those in lesbian partnerships. If you’re struggling to come up with lesbian bachelorette party ideas, consider some of these.

Take a Class Together

Taking a class works whether you decide to have separate bachelorette parties or one large one together, which may be the case if you share many of the same friends. Most cities have a wide range of classes that make it easy to find something you would like to learn about. Take a cooking class, learn how to paint, try pole dancing or even learn how to play a musical instrument. The evening will be casual but fun and will ensure everyone who has to work or errands to run the next day can still participate in the festivities.

Have a Spa Day

You probably want to get prettied up and more relaxed before your big day anyway, so why not do it with a spa day or night as your bachelorette party? Choose a spa with a restaurant where you can have dinner and drinks, and then spend the evening relaxing with your friends. Most spas provide a wide range of services.

• Massages
• Facials
• Manicures
• Pedicures
• Body wraps
• Hydrotherapy
• Full body exfoliation

Keep Things at Home

Who says you have to go out and spend a ton of money to have a fun bachelorette party? If you’re having a party together, think about having it at home. You’ll save money and everyone can be relaxed and comfortable. Consider a movie night, a barbecue with games, or even a wine and cheese tasting. You can have everyone bring their favorites to keep costs down.

Go on a Road Trip

On the other hand, who says a bachelorette party has to be only one night? Choose a place within a few hours’ drive and spend the whole weekend with your friends. Big cities have plenty of restaurants and nighttime entertainment, but you could also consider going camping—try a cabin if you aren’t fond of tents—and get in tune with nature, so you can relax before your big day. If you’re particularly adventurous, take a weekend trip to go white water rafting, skydive or ride in a hot air balloon.

Have a Slightly Modified Traditional Party

Maybe you want a traditional party but would like to modify it a bit to fit your relationship dynamic. Traditional bachelorette parties are geared toward heterosexual females, but you can change it up some by trading out traditional heterosexual party favors and decorations for something more lesbian-friendly, or skip decorations altogether and just go out in your bridal sash.

Just Get Married

If you don’t want a bachelorette party and like giving people surprises, just get married. They’ll think they are coming to a joint bachelorette party, so imagine their surprise when you and your partner get married right there on the spot. Not only will it save you money and stress, but it will be a memorable event for your guests.

Regardless of your style, all you have to do to have a great lesbian bachelorette party is get creative. Think about some of your favorite things to do, or even just have a theme based on your favorite TV shows or movies. It’s your special event and the possibilities are practically endless.