Getting engaged is a big step toward tying the knot with your significant other. Though it does not require as much planning as the wedding, per se, you probably are going to put a lot of thought behind this decision. In the past, it was common for “popping the question” to be something of a surprise. Nowadays, many couples like to talk out the decision before anyone tries to get down on bent knee. As the protocols surrounding engagements change, so do the ways couples decide to take the plunge into married life. If you’re talking about marriage with your partner, now’s a good time to consider how you plan on getting engaged. Explore some of these nontraditional engagement ideas and see how you can add your own significance to this important moment.

No Rings Required

When you hear the word “engaged,” you most likely picture a ring. Even if it isn’t the first image that pops into your mind, you probably associate rings with engagements. While exchanging jewelry was once par for the course, many are moving away from the tradition. Attitudes toward spending have changed, with younger couples preferring to put money into experiences rather than possessions. The ring industry might not love the concept, but exploring nontraditional ideas for your own engagement might be the perfect idea.

Instead of wearing a pricey rock on your finger, you and your partner might want to take a trip. Since you’ll be going on a honeymoon later, use this excursion as a last chance to get away before you start planning for your wedding. Even a small adventure to a local destination can be refreshing to the spirit. On a smaller scale, you might want to think about going to an event instead of a ring. If you and your partner have a favorite band, try and see the group in concert for a night you’re sure to remember.

Surprise Everyone Else

Proposals might be discussed more openly between partners these days, but that doesn’t mean they can’t still be a surprise. After you and your partner have made the decision to get engaged, consider gathering some of your friends and family members together to make your announcement. It might be difficult to keep your friends in the dark about the engagement for long. Plus you’re likely to feel the urge to post on social media, but showing restraint can deliver a wonderful payoff. When you see the looks on their faces, you’ll be glad you had the patience.

Creative types might want to think about watching some engagement videos on YouTube. There are countless clips online to peruse, some fantastic and some incredibly embarrassing. Use these videos as inspiration, and you might be able to come up with a clever way to surprise your family and friends with the announcement.

Go Simple 

Not everyone needs an engagement to be a grand affair. If you and your significant other like to stay out of the spotlight, then keep your decision to wed as simple as you’d like. For some, a quiet dinner at a favorite restaurant with a romantic partner is worth more than any grand performance. You might even find you’d rather celebrate your engagement by staying home, making a meal together, and indulging in each other’s company. There’s nothing wrong with forgoing a public spectacle for a casual evening alone.

There is no one set way for how to go about your engagement. Whether you’re looking to go the traditional route or want something a bit more personal, what matters is following what feels like it fits. Do what works best for your personalities. Start your journey toward married life in a way that makes sense for you.