When most people think about weddings, they picture social affairs that are carefully arranged over several months. However, some couples consider eloping for a variety of reasons. Whether you and your sweetie are eying a courthouse ceremony or you want to bolt to a destination like Vegas to tie the knot, you’ll need to engage in at least a little planning before taking the plunge. If you’re thinking about eloping, follow these useful tips to help you successfully elope with as few complications as possible.

A Brief History of Elopement 

Merriam-Webster traces the term “elope” back to the 17^th century, explaining that it first connoted a woman who left her husband to be with a clandestine lover. Eventually, its meaning shifted as people began to use it to describe running away with one’s romantic interest. Later, it specifically referred to absconding and tying the knot with someone, usually due to family disapproval over one’s choice of partner or to escape an arranged marriage. NPR contributor Linton Weeks adds that there was a perceived “elopement epidemic” during the 19^th century, but with a lack of empirical evidence, Weeks suggests that sensationalist headlines may be to blame.

Why Skip Out on the Big Ceremony?

Changing social norms means that eloping doesn’t quite have the same connotation that it did in the past. Nevertheless, some newlyweds-to-be still eye it as a viable alternative to a traditional wedding. Huffington Post writer Marissa Higgins revealed in a 2013 article that she and her wife opted to elope partially to avoid tense and awkward moments from judgmental family members. You may or may not face similar issues with your own families about your same-sex wedding, but other reasons to run away for your nuptials might bubble up to the surface:

• A dislike for large formal events
• Extremely tight budgets
• The ability to create your own priorities
• A spontaneous, romantic adventure

Remember Some Planning Essentials 

No matter what your reasons, you still need to make sure you have details in order before hightailing it to your destination. Brides contributor Jessie Mooney lays down some advice for ensuring that your nuptials are both legal and enjoyable. First, research the marriage license requirements for the area in which you plan to wed. Waiting periods, residency requirements and other rules vary by location, and you’ll need to ensure you have an officiant and the appropriate number of witnesses. Also, you should confirm whether same-sex marriages are legal in the jurisdiction you’re visiting. Finally, it’s a wise move to hire wedding vendors from the local area in which you’re getting married. You’ll probably require a photographer, a planner and a videographer at the very least.

Breaking the News to Your Loved Ones

If you and your partner opt to vamoose and tie the knot, you’ll probably have to communicate what happened with your family and friends upon your return. Those dealing with unaccepting relatives might decide to leave them in the dark. However, if you’re dealing with favorable folks in your crowd, you could send a small announcement card or make it personal with a few phone calls. The Knot writer Tia Allbright recommends even throwing a small party in lieu of a full-blown reception and inviting people to celebrate with you. Be prepared to deal with surprise, shock and even a few hurt feelings, but keep a positive and diplomatic tone as you share your joyful news.

Eloping has taken on a slightly different meaning over the last few hundred years. Yet for some same-sex couples, the idea can be both romantic and practical. You’ll need to do a bit of research and put the proper logistics in place, but prudent planning results in an unforgettable event for you and your partner.