Getting engaged is a big moment for any couple. While you might not be rushing right to the altar, it still helps to understand what you’re in store for when planning a wedding. Though same-sex relationships have existed for as far back as recorded history allows, marriage between two people of the same gender only became legalized in America about ten years ago. This means there are countless couples who never gave marriage much thought but are now engaged and tasked with putting together an event that before had seemed like an unattainable wish. Whether you’ve got some idea of how you’d like your special day to go or are starting from scratch, guidance can be invaluable. Here is a short checklist to help your wedding planning and tips for how to find success without much stress.

Begin With Budgeting

Conversations about money are usually frustrating in nature. When discussing finances with your significant other, emotions can become even more intense. While it might not be fun to think about, you absolutely need to begin planning your wedding by first chatting about the budget. Tying the knot is far from what most would consider affordable, so you have to know what to expect. Be realistic as you talk about your funds, and try not to make any concrete decisions until you feel absolutely secure that you can afford what you’re selecting.

A Time and Place

Once the budget has been loosely defined, you’re ready to choose a day to host the event. Picking a date is actually a lot more complicated than it seems. Consider not just the time of year you’d most prefer, but also consider your guests. A late-summer affair runs the danger of friends and family being unable to attend due to previously booked vacations. Be thoughtful of these factors and do not announce a date until you are completely sure that it is possible.

You’ll also need to check a few venues before you start telling guests to save the date. Picking a specific day when no spaces are available is an easy way for your plans to catch fire. Figure out a few options for your venue and check the dates to make sure everything aligns. Then you can feel free to move forward with announcements.

Choose Your Team

One of the final preliminary steps is selecting your wedding party and guests. After you have an idea of the venue, you’ll be able to work out a guest list that sensibly fits within the capacity of the space. Give you and your partner an even number of slots for guests, as this event is for both of you. Naturally, one of you might have more family members than another, but don’t make concessions until after starting out on an even playing field.

Research Vendors

Throughout the entire process, look into different vendors for catering, entertainment, photography, and any service you might need. Many same-sex couples worry about homophobic vendors, so you might want to calm these fears by researching LGBT-friendly businesses. Patronizing establishments owned by members of the LGBT community can be a fantastic way to use your wedding as a way of giving back to your community in an active way. Plus, opting for gay vendors reduces the odds of working with a company that only caters to LGBT individuals for their money.

Though same-sex marriage is a relatively new legal concept, weddings are as old as time. Get started on your wedding planning checklist early. This way you can focus on the excitement of walking down the aisle and into your new life together.